106. Mutual Relationships

One of the most important life fields of the mortal is mutual relationships that manifest themselves everywhere starting with the family, friends, classmates, colleagues, compatriots, and citizens, relationships among the people on the street or in any other place. And having taken a more attentive look you will notice the difference of your behavior in various places. Within the family you get much more relaxed and you may let yourselves be both more loving the way you understand love and more angry and less tolerant. With your friends you restrain yourselves more, you do not allow to burst out like within your family. With your colleagues you restrict your actions even more. With the people on the street you do not even associate. However, if you go somewhere further away from your city or the state then to you, each, even a stranger whom you have not known up to then becomes a neighbor to you and you desire to approach him, you desire to share your experiences with him, to ask about his experiences. And the further away you are from your state the closer is getting the relationship with your compatriots.       

However, during all this time you are the same man. You do not become another person when you associate with your friends or colleagues, when you are in your city or in a far off land.  Thus, why is your behavior conditioned so much by the ambience, why do you behave so differently while even being the same person?

Your different behavior in different situations with different people is determined by your own human self. Each time it receives the low vibrations, even consciously not perceived in full, out of sub-consciousness they motivate the human consciousness to behaving in one or another way. The human selfish animal mind right away begins to act in the brain as the fastest computer immediately assessing the environment and possible consequences if it behaves in one sort of environment exactly in the same way as in a different ambience. It is calculating, in sub-consciousness, that one or another sort of behavior might cause much trouble to its own ego, might cause various problems if it gives a hug and a kiss to a friend in a similar way it gives a hug and a kiss to his or her own son or brother. Still bigger problems arise to one‘s own ego if it behaves in this manner with a colleague. Meanwhile, by acting like this on the street it shall provoke confusion even among many people for the one who will be attempted to be kissed will be scared and that person‘s fear reaction might be very aggressive and drag into that dynamic situation more passers-by in no way related with the situation itself who will start expressing their own attitudes or even resort to some actions. However, if you behave in this manner having encountered a compatriot of yours in a very far off land the reaction shall not be negative as it would be in your own land. In a far away land the environment is unusual, alien to you, therefore every word you hear and understand or a noticed face from your land immediately brings you closer to each other and removes all the barriers that would be immediately set up by a similar action in your own land. And the low vibrations being passed to your consciousness by your sub-consciousness to the effect to behave in this manner in your land is inappropriate in a far off land are not judged so strictly any more, and your consciousness blocks these very low vibrations and the brain receives a command from the higher vibrations of consciousness to make a decision and give a hug to your compatriot.. This action by no means would be possible in your own land.              

Does it mean that in one case the person behaves in a clever way while in the other case not? The same man, or rather the same persons. Of course, not. Only in one case they might run into each other in their own city and pass by as two strangers and absolutely as the alien persons merely because they are in their usual environment in which the actions of consciousness are determined by a multitude of information that lies hidden deeply in the layers of one‘s sub-consciousness and that is ever being accumulated thru different events, stories heard, situations seen, being accumulated unconsciously in addition to the attitudes man has already formed on an appropriate and inappropriate behavior on the street and firmly established in his consciousness; firmly established them that much that he has become the slave of the attitudes, distorted by his consciousness, that forbid even to think that it is possible to behave otherwise than following these attitudes formed by his consciousness. Therefore, man behaves as a programed robot – according to a program set by his consciousness and he does not think at all about any other sort of and more intimate behavior with people. And only having come to a far off land he begins to feel a completely different ambience, after some time he begins to feel that he is missing his usual environment, even his native language, for he has to think hard in and speak a language that is alien to him and it wears his mind. And this wearing is suppressed by the experience of outer impressions yet it is accumulating in man‘s sub-consciousness all the same. And suddenly having heard the native tongue an impulse from man‘s sub-consciousness reaches his consciousness and it does not  resist any more this intimate and warm hug of a compatriot who, at least for a short while, removes the tension, tiredness, and brings it back to the ordinary conditions of its functioning. Therefore, the former barriers and taboo set up by both man‘s sub-consciousness and consciousness are easily overcome and one‘s behavior approaches a sincere association even though the association is between the persons who have not known each other up to that moment for they have never met each other before. However, they are brought closer to each other by the bond of their common language and nationality.       

And during these moments a difference vanishes that would necessarily exist in one‘s own land – one‘s social status, in what city one and the other live, whether one lives in the countryside and the other one in the city, what is their occupation, what are the political views of each, and many other separating barriers disappear or if they do not vanish in full they become much smaller so that they cease to impede the association. And these very obstacles spring up again to these very persons after having come back to and having met in their own land for once consciousness finds itself in its ordinary environment the low subconscious vibrations that control the human animal ego, that sees a danger to itself everywhere, begin to operate again. One‘s frankness with others, one‘s sincerity with others, one‘s love for others, one‘s mercy for others, one‘s striving for truth, and similar things can be dangerous to one‘s own ego therefore this ego is hiding under different masks. It is nothing else but the slavery of fear. And depending upon the ambience it begins to liberate itself from fear. The longer man associates with others, the more he knows others, the more he begins to trust others, the less he begins to fear them, and therefore he can open up more and show more love.

Love is from the Universal Father. All the creation is receiving the same love. There are no two sorts of love. There are only various interpretations of the same love of the Father, one‘s own perception, feeling of love, and spreading it to others having already colored it with one‘s own sensational experience, with the approach of one‘s own human ego that namely corresponds to the degree of self-protection of that ego.         

Within the family, if it is a loving and sincere family, the human ego can experience the biggest relaxation and peace, to feel that it is safe, that it is not threatened by anything that could pose a danger to it. Therefore, in this environment the human animal ego can experience more of the love sensations since love is inversely proportional to fear. And you, each, can experience this by yourselves. Analyze your behavior within the family, with friends, with colleagues, with classmates, with people on the street and you shall arrive at this very same conclusion – wherever you feel more anxiety, more fear you feel less love there as well, you cannot associate there that sincerely as you can associate, and you do associate, where you do not feel fear and anxiety. And that is applied to all. There are no exceptions to anyone. Even beasts and animals behave exactly in the same way. They feel peace and do not behave aggressively where they feel love. And on the contrary, the instinct of self-protection starts operating immediately, and right away aggressiveness arises where there is anxiety, fear; provided that the beast is not hungry, when the feeling of hunger dictates it such a behavior that must satisfy the feeling of hunger.