143. The Child and You
The baby needs the love vibrations and not only a material food. Therefore, feed him with them permanently. And associate, play, and talk with him like with the one equal to you. I have already explained it to you earlier. Now I desire to explain to you about raising a bigger child, a child of the age when he starts feeling a bigger influence from the environment rather than from the parents as the authority of the parents begins to fall. To prevent this from happening you must not produce such a misleading impression on your child that you know everything so that it is only from you that the child could learn anything he is interested in.
You must always keep a very sincere relationship with your child. Never lie to the child. Never be afraid to tell him you do not know something. However, you must also reveal that the omniscient is only the Father who is namely helping everybody learn more. Therefore, one human being knows more in one field, another one knows more in another field. This way the Father desires that people, as His children, would share their knowledge with each other so that they would cooperate among themselves with love. And then explain to him that after he will find an answer to his question, that you are unable to provide him, to share his knowledge with you as well. This way you will show him your trust in him and that you value his knowledge and even desire to hear his explanation. He will also begin to feel his own value that you listen to him and that it is from him that you hear what you have not known before. It will not be strange for him either that his parents might not know something as they always used to know everything and now they do not know it. It produces a big disillusion to a child. Therefore, this sort of explanation is both a sincere association with him and the expansion of his vantage-point, and a teaching as to how it is necessary to look for answers not only from the parents who are not omniscient but also from other sources, as well as to share this information with others who do not yet know it.
If you have a chance, try to find your answer to this question as well. And then get back to this issue again when you are with your child. If you have no chance of doing it then ask your child whether he has succeeded in finding a response. This relationship and your interest must be sincere. That is being felt by the child from your vibrations.
He is also feeling when you are asking formally about anything what does not really interest you. It is the same like your child would be talking with you while his thoughts would be somewhere else and you would be feeling he is merely talking to you that you would leave him in peace as soon as possible and after that he would submerge himself into his own favorite field. Association must always be sincere.
If your association, since the very birth of the child, has been based on the love relationship, on the vibrations of the Father‘s love in this case your sincere bond with the child shall be natural and lasting. And you shall be associating as equal partners rather than as the mother or the father and the child who has always to obey your demands merely because he is the child. Such an acquisitive approach to the child as a thing might destroy the child for it does not provide the building up of the child‘s free will, independent decision making, and self-dependent acting. This sort of the child raising, rather than educating, is limited to meeting merely his material interests, and the expression of his gratitude at the request of the parents for such a sentimental destruction of the child‘s character. And as the child grows his character is beginning to present the new shades of its manifestation, and he shall start revolting against the curbing of his free will since he will notice that other children of his age may express their own free will to their parents and enjoy it beyond the walls of their home. Therefore, in such a family where the child was brought up without the vibrations of the Father‘s love the revolt of the child is inevitable unless his will is completely subdued by the will of the parents and that would already be an absolute violation of the Father‘s free will and, sooner or later, would cause big problems to such parents within the family.
Therefore, never break a free will of your beloved child but rather raise him as the son or daughter of the Father, build up his unselfish, altruistic character while associating with him as with the one equal to you, all the time allowing the vibrations of the Father‘s love and sincerity rather than your own strivings and purposes to manifest. And it is this association that is the up-bringing of the child and when such an up-bringing that would wear you out remains no more. There remains only the sharing of your experience. However, sharing your experience not merely in words that the child would not understand all the same but by your living that must be as such that you would submit yourselves to the leading of the Father from within and the child would feel what vibrations of the Father‘s love his parents are living and breathing literally, and later on he would even see your actions in your life as well. This sort of sharing your experience is more effective to the child than dry words. The same applies to the fact if your words begin to differ from your living, and the child shall notice it very soon if his character has not yet been so much deviated from the path of love and truth. And then your nice words that do not match your real steps in life very soon shall build up a cold invisible wall between the child and yourselves that shall not be overcome by any appealing to his conscience or morals. Such a child might start revolting against the mode of your living while speaking out to you nothing but performing such actions that shall cause a shock even to you, who talk one way and act the other way, because even your demeanor is not that base. However, such actions of his causing you fear shall be nothing but the consequence of what you are claiming to be a good up-bringing of the child. Therefore, you must realize that sharing your experience with your child is also your daily living. And it is simply impossible to hide this living once it contradicts your words you are telling your child. You must not think that the child does not see and understand your life. He is feeling your vibrations since he also has the spirit of the Father that is leading him even as He is leading you. And the spirit‘s leading might be even stronger for him than for you if he is less resisting this leading, if you have been directing him up to then towards goodness, truth, love even though by empty words without supporting these very words with your practical steps in life. And such a child is feeling much more than you are. Therefore, you shall not understand, by yourselves, as to how your child knows and feels it that your life differs from the words you utter to him. However, this ambiguous situation shall be a heavy burden to the child how to find an exit from this maze provided to him by his parents. Here, a lot shall be determined by his environment beyond the family boundaries.
Therefore, do not risk the future, even the survival, of your children, and yourselves, of your own free will, choose the path of the Father‘s love that has the only Truth – to raise your child as a son or daughter of the Father. It is only in this ambience that the child shall be raised possessing a desire to search even for a bigger truth than he knows, to walk on still more resolutely than he has been walking before, to be completely free from the dead and restraining his free will rituals, to seek more steadfastly than up to date a deeper experience in the Father‘s love and to give it back to the Father and all the creation more sincerely thru the worship of the Father and service to the brethren.